The thought patterns we live with day in and day out have extreme influence into the direction our lives take. Essentially, our thoughts can make us or they can break us. Eliminating negative thoughts and thought patterns is crucial to your success and happiness in life.
Now this concept is nothing new to those who are familiar with the Law of Attraction and the principles that surround it. There are a lot of one liners that originated out of this movement that point to such. Some of these include quotes such as:
“Thoughts become things.”
“What you think about, you bring about.”
These concepts are valid and true. Scripture even supports them when it says:
“As a man thinks in his heart…so is he” (Proverbs 27:3)
So, with this knowledge comes the understanding that the direction of your thoughts lead to the direction of your life. Therefore, it is important that you maintain a complete awareness of what you are thinking.
Studies reveal that the average human has approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. And for those, like me, whose brains never stop working…there can be even more than that!! 🙂
Because there are so many thoughts running through your mind each day, it is next to impossible to monitor them all, but you can monitor the climate of your thought life by being aware and attentive to your feelings. Thoughts influence your feelings, therefore if you are feeling bad, angry, depressed, or frustrated, this can be a “red flag” for you to pause and trace that feeling back to the thought processes or patterns that led you down that path to begin with.
Left unaltered, negative thinking can lead to negative living. The reason for this is simple – negative energy creates or attracts more negative energy, and ultimately – negative outcomes. Therefore, once identified, it is essential that you consistently practice taking immediate and focused action to correct your thinking and bring it back into alignment with the direction you want your life to take…a positive peaceful and focused direction.
Techniques To Eliminate Negative Thought Patterns and Change Your Life
There are many techniques you can use to refocus yourself, eliminate negative thought patterns, and bring balance back to your thought life. Some of the techniques I personally use and have found to be most effective are prayer, meditation, breathing exercises, and self-talk (aka: affirmations or desire statements).
All of these help me recenter my thought patterns and bring my thoughts into alignment with my intended goals and desired direction for life.
For the purposes of this post, I want to focus on one of these, and we will save the others for future discussions.
Self-Talk and Your Thought Life
To really demonstrate the power and effectiveness of self-talk, I want to share with you a small portion of my personal journey with this technique.
Millionaire Mentors: Steven Thompson, Krista Abbott, Brad Hager, and Susan Walsh
I first began using self-talk about a year ago after a millionaire mentor of mine (Brad Hager) shared with me the importance of how it had impacted his life. As is typical with most “new habits” we try to form, it faded away after about two months. Amazingly, this happened even though I was seeing positive results with the actions I was taking with self-talk. There are lots of reasons this can happen, but again that’s another post for another day…on with the story!
About a month ago, I began to notice a significant increase in negative thought patterns, so much so that it was impacting my motivation to pursue those things I am most passionate about. Immediately, I sat down and started to write out some positive self-talk that would help me combat these things. And, within two weeks, I had instant results of overcoming and eliminating that particular thought pattern in my life.
I have seen the power of self-talk and I know it works. If your self talk is negative, then your results will be negative. If your self talk is positive then your results will be positive. If you really want to have the outcomes and results you desire in your life, then you MUST recognize and eliminate negative thought patterns, and replace them with new ones.
This is called “Renewing Your Mind”.
“…be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” (Romans 12:2)
I would encourage you to identify areas that you are know you are struggling with positive thinking in and write out your own self-talk for those areas you are most passionate about. It’s easy to do this, I’ll give you a few easy steps and some examples here:
10 Easy Steps To Creating Your Own Self-Talk
Get about 10 index cards (3 x 5 size), a piece of scratch paper, and a writing instrument
Draw a line down the middle of the scratch paper
Think about the things you want to see manifest in your life and jot those down in column one of the scratch paper. For example: I want to make more money.”
Think about the negative thought patterns you have that block those things from coming into your life and jot those down in column two of the scratch paper. For example, “…why can’t I ever seem to get ahead in life.”
Repeat this until you feel satisfied that all you want to manifest in your life is represented in column one and all the things that block you are in column two.
If you have more than 10, then you may want to narrow your focus and identify the Top 10 and save the rest for later.
It is recommended that you categorize the 10 items if possible. For example: using cateogories such as “feelings”, “mindset”, “finances”, “relationships”, etc.
Next, take your 3 x 5 cards and one by one begin to write a positive statement that addresses the desire you have written in column one and counteracts the negative thought patterns you have identified in column 2. For example, “I am a money magnet, money flows to me easily and effortlessly. It feels great to be able to give generously and help others with my excess money.”
Make sure you use “feeling words” as much as possible to support the visualization that goes with your self talk.
Repeat this until you have your 10 cards written.
What To Do With Your Self-Talk Cards
I make it a habit to read each of my cards each morning when I wake up and each night before I go to sleep. The reason for this is that scientific studies have shown that these are the times when your brain is most open to receive and retain the information presented to it. So it is very important that the first thing you think about each day and the last thing you think about each night is positive. Then these thoughts can work into the deeper and more influential portions of your brain.
Now, when reading them practice reading with these steps:’
Read silently to yourself and think about what you are reading
Read it out loud so that you can hear yourself saying it.
Pause and purposefully feel how the manifestation of that statement will feel when it arrives in your life.
Hold that feeling for at least a minute.
When ready move on to the next card and repeat until finished.
Keep your self-talk cards handy and accessible throughout the day. Frankly, you will want to keep these cards with you as much as possible. I actually carry mine around in my computer bag (which goes with me almost everywhere I go). Anytime you identify some feelings that are counter-productive to the positive energy you want to generate in your life, you can pull out these cards and read through them. It is best to read them aloud so that you hear yourself saying them…this helps solidify the belief and build your faith.
“…faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word…” (Romans 10:17)
If you are in a public place or around a lot of people and are not able (or not comfortable) reading them aloud, then that’s fine. Read them silently to yourself and focus all of your energy on feeling what that statement would feel like when those things manifest in your life.
Examples of Self-Talk
I am aware of my feelings and when they are moving me away from my goals. I quickly redirect my thoughts to achieve positive, winning, and profitable outcomes. I enjoy being open and receptive to the gifts and abundance flowing into my life.
Category: Belief System
I live a “no-limits” mindset. I believe I can have, do, and be anything I want. There are no limits to the level of success, happiness, money, love, relationships, good opportunities, or blessings that can come into my life. It feels great to live so free and abundant. I believe!
I notice all of the abundance and beauty around me. I feel gratitude for the abundant blessings in my life and for all of the resources available at my finger tips. I receive all of the gifts and good things God brings into my life. I freely and generously share with others who are in need.
I live my passion every day. It feels amazing to love what I do and to have people pay me for it, and pay me well. I am fulfilled and successful because I follow my heart and live my passion daily.
Summary and Call to Action
Well my friends, I know this has been a long post, but I felt the need to share this information with you to help you on your journey to success. I encourage you to take an hour out of your day to take these action steps outlined above and create some positive self talk for yourself. Create a habit in your life and watch your mind get transformed and your life changed. I truly believe that if you do this, and do it consistently that you will see the results and the manifestations of the things that you desire begin to come into your life faster and easier than you ever imagined possible.
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